Since I was very young, about 6 maybe? I was still having accidents and wetting the bed. I had doctors appointment after doctors appointment, and as a kid, I figured if I didn't drink liquids, I wouldn't have an issue. Cue UIT after UTI, antibiotics after antibiotics causing thrush infection after thrush infection, a whole lot before I was even 10. If I didn't have a UTI I had a side effect from the prescription I was on for it.
Turns out the solution was pretty simple. I took years of very intimate exams and tests. Totally ruining my future sex life, having so many intimate exams as a child, to proper health care professionals to understand that fact I just had an over active bladder.
I hate to say my childhood (and psychological adulthood) was ruined because it honestly took years before I was given incontinent pads. Yep. You heard. A thing so common in every shop now.
Who do I blame? The years of embarrassing leaks and flat out floods, at such a young age, and it took years to figure out a simple pad would help. But they're made for adults. No child size.
OK, little kids size, but my age? Nothing that fit. And again, the literally constant intimate exams and hospital admissions because apparently, even in the late 90s, no doctor noticed the correlation between my accidents and my dehydration. To me (to be fair, obviously) dehydration should have been linked to the incontinent nature of my issue.
Is this an example of the still real issue of people not taking womens problem seriously?
I was too young at the time to call anyone out or to really talk to myself. But it should have been fairly clear a young child with bladder issues might avoid things that effect the bladder?
And why oh why did it take years for an older child sized pad to become a thing? It took years for me to get proper underwear ands pads for an older child to avoid the constant bullying at school from the almost daily accidents.
Sorry for the long post, but omg did this issue stain my whole childhood, but if I had access to anything to hide the issue... if I wasn't so scared of wetting myself.... I wouldn't have been so dehydrated, I wouldn't have been in hospital quite to much, I just needed a little help for the symptoms for the cause to work itself out.
Here I am today, I'm my 30s, still with an over active bladder. But now I know how to handle it without the infections and complications. Now I have the TOOLS to handle things.
But lucky me, I have an issue with anyone being 'down there' and an issue with needles due to the many unnecessary exams (by mainly male doctors I must add) for a very simple problem I feel one good chat with a proper child oriented doctor would have solved.
It wasn't a big thing. I just pee more often, but it took so many hospital hours and tests and doctors, for the cure to be time and pads.
Idk what the point of this post is... but as an adult who can mostly get to a toilet, or buy and adult pad if needed, it just seems dumb I suffered for so long because no one ever thought an older child might need something above a pull up. You have to be a baby or a 50 Yr old. No in-between